I was watching the tv series
‘friends’ and a thought pop up in my mind. We have lots of movies based on romance and
love but a very few on friendship. Why is it so? I consider friendship to be
more universal than romance but still when it comes to fiction, it is
completely dominated by the romantic stories. The influence of romance in
fiction is so high that it is considered to be a genre. You will hear people
saying I am going to watch a romantic movie but how many times have you heard
someone saying I am going to watch a friendship movie. It is very rare.
‘Friends‘
can be considered as a good work on
friendship. More than the comedy part the emotions and bonds are brilliantly
depicted. But I am unable to remember many movies solely based on friendship.
When I googled the friendship movies I got something like lord of rings
triology and all. Yes there is an element of friendship and all in those movies
but you cannot consider it primarily based on friendship.
So why
does this fiction people hate friendship and gives so much importance to
romance? Almost everyone will have friends but there are people who do not have
a lover. Also friendship has no age limits even a three year old can have
friends. But this romance thing happens only after an age and may be after an
age the strength of romantic feelings may decay. I cannot make a final judgment
on the last part as I am in my twenties and I do not know what happens at a
later stage but as of now I believe so. The limit of number is also there. I
mean it is difficult for one to share romance with many at same time. May be
there are people who can romance more than one at same time. But as the number
goes on increasing I think it is difficult to handle. Friendship does not have
that kind of a limit. You can have from 1 to say a thousand or many more
friends.
Now you have got an emotion which
does not have age limits and almost 100
percent of people share and on other hand you have a slightly more
limited emotion which many are unable to share and when you look at your movies
and novels they are all completely filled by second one. That’s unbelievable.
What can be underlying reason?
When I
shared my thoughts with one of my friends (note: here again when I had a doubt
I shared it with my friend and not lover because I do not have a romantic
counter part) he shared an interesting view point. Everyone knows about
friendship and we all will have friendship with some others during one time or
another. But when it comes to romance it is rare. Even though many say they
have a lover we can see lots of unhappy couples around us. Also even while
romancing many are looking for better relationship. So there is a lack of
clarity in romance. What is it? Many don’t know. So that gives room for
fictionalization or dramatization. That is a good way of looking at this. Our
writers are finding it easy to fictionalize it and they are giving it to us
saying this is what is called true romance.
It is more like a fantasy stuff possibilities are unlimited. Only writer’s
imagination is limit.
Now do
not consider me as an ‘anti love’ or ‘I hate you’ kind of person. I just want
to find out why romance dominates in fiction. If there are better arguments
than above they are all welcome.
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